Other people's opinions of you are their business, not yours. I think that what really helps to ease the way with the "craziness " issue is to just stay the course. Sometimes folks just need time to adjust to the change. Over time, they will realize the seriousness of your conviction, and not only does that tend to decrease friction, sometimes observers of your life may get curious about why you've chosen to live a life that is set apart and peculiar. Take heart. You're not alone. Many of us have had to walk this same type of path. Shalom. ❤
romans 14 clears up everything about what we are allowed to eat....
Just simply say thanks, but no thanks. She will eventually get it. Or if not, you will at least know where you stand. Shalom
I try to focus on what we agree on and find common ground on subjects to support the connection and relationship. There are usually opportunities to slip in things about the word and Yah's instructions, and if they are curious they will ask. That's not go say I don't speak about Torah and the ways we've been mislead through religion, but initially that wasn't helpful and usually isn't for folks who are steeped in religion. Your life is your testimony and when the Father works in you and through you or is a huge witness. My prayer has been that my light shines and the Father uses me to minister to them and gives me wisdoms about what to speak.
As far as pork and being invited to eat it, they respect I don't eat it now (my dadoccasionally offers it in a teasing fashion) and now try to have clean food I can eat when they know I'll be around. I've also started bringing my own food when I visit so I know I can eat and honor the Father. I try to reiterate the connection we have is more important than the food we eat, that their cooking is delightful and I'd love to partake when I can, and that I want to follow my convictions and show up in the most authentic way I can.
It can be hard. Praying for wisdom and guidance for you.
Go, spend time with family, eat. Family is important.
When the pork plate gets passed...keep it going past. If questioned, have an answer ready. You will be tested by family because they know you as not that person you are now as a beleiver. Be an example that they can see, understand, and stick to your answers.
If after they continue and don't respect your observance, maybe then it's time to be busy that next night.
Be ready for laughs, discussions, or even insults. But, keep faithful. You may be the only example they see.
It is a huge change when we start walking fully in the scriptures, and often family and friends do not and will not understand and will form their own opinions and thoughts on it. as answered above, simply standing firm on the truth and not partaking of the things you now know are wrong is the first part of it. Not to do so in a rude or disrespectful manner, yet just continually reminding them. If they still continue after you’ve made yourself clear then it could come down to separating from them more. As in another post about unequally yoked, there’s not a lot of connection to be had with those who are still in darkness. We can shine our light and walk how we are supposed to walk, and sometimes that means walking away from those who continually turn their ear from hearing. It’s not easy, yet there needs to be emotional disconnection with those who will not hear. Much like my parents whom made pork and beans and I just had gotten done talking about how pork is bad. I respect them as my parents and know they tried their best to raise me, yet who are my mother, brother, and sister? Is it not those who do the will of our Father in heaven?
I hope you find shalom in knowing that you’re not alone in this and that we’re here to help support you as a true family, and that others have and are experiencing the same things.